Midlife Strategies for Badass Women

In this inspiring episode of A Life Worth Being, host Sue Willoughby talks with Ray Martin, a transformational coach, marathon runner, and author of Life Without a Tie. Ray’s story is one of reinvention: after his business, marriage, and life imploded all at once, he set out on a six-month sabbatical that unexpectedly turned into a 14-year journey of self-discovery. From becoming a backpacker at 44 to performing in a play with no acting experience, to running his first marathon at 48, Ray redefined his life by embracing adventure, uncertainty, and authenticity. Tune in to learn how Ray turned personal devastation into a quest for joy, found clarity through letting go of the need for control, and discovered the power of rewriting your own story. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a life that doesn’t feel like your own, this episode will remind you that it’s never too late to find your true path.

Takeaways

• Ray's journey began with a personal crisis that led to self-discovery.
• Helping others can create breakthroughs in our own lives.
• Living authentically is crucial for true happiness.
• The importance of taking 100% ownership of one's life.
• Becoming an observer of your thoughts can provide clarity.
• Life is a series of roles we play, and we can change them.
• Confirmation signals can guide us in our decisions.
• Ray's experiences led him to write a book about his journey.
• Traveling and new experiences can lead to profound insights.
• It's never too late to rewrite your life story.

Sound Bites

"I felt like I was living someone else's life."

"I wished I'd lived my life true to myself."

"What quest am I on?"

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Ray Martin's Journey

02:50 The Catalyst for Change

05:46 Finding True Path and Purpose

09:00 The Power of Helping Others

12:04 Embracing New Opportunities

14:58 The Character Analogy in Life

18:04 Six Rules for Happiness

21:03 Becoming Your Own Observer

24:01 The Birth of a Book

26:56 Confirmation Signals in Life

30:11 Ray's Future Plans and Reflections

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Website: http://www.lifewithoutatie.com

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In this episode of A Life Worth Being, host Sue Willoughby is joined by Mike Fink, a clarity and decision-making expert who specializes in helping women navigate the complexities of divorce. Mike shares his powerful method for guiding clients through tough decisions with a sense of certainty and peace of mind. Using his "decoding grid" and the unique analogy of a Rubik’s Cube, Mike walks listeners through the process of aligning head, heart, and gut to make confident choices that serve their deepest values. He also explores the biological and emotional factors that keep many women stuck in indecision, offering practical strategies for gaining clarity. Whether you’re facing a major life decision or simply want to refine your decision-making skills, this conversation will provide actionable insights on how to confidently move forward, even when the stakes are high.

Takeaways

• 70% of divorces are initiated by women.
• Indecision can affect mental health and relationships.
• There is a structured process to achieve clarity.
• The brain's primal instincts often keep us stuck.
• Gathering all pieces of the puzzle is essential for decision-making.
• Values should be ranked to create order from chaos.
• Visual assessments can clarify relationship health.
• Outsourcing needs can alleviate relationship pressure.
• Clarity can be achieved in 30 days or less.
• The Decoding Grid is a powerful tool for decision-making.

Sound Bites

"70% of divorces are initiated by women."

"There is a natural process to make decisions."

"Indecision affects your life on many levels."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Clarity in Decision Making

04:46 Mike's Origin Story and the Impact of Indecision

07:26 The Dilemma of Women Considering Divorce

11:22 Helping Women Considering Divorce

15:00 The Role of Uncertainty in Decision Making

20:52 Steps to Make a Decision

26:30 Communicating Certainty to the Primal and Emotional Brain

30:40 Introduction and Different Scenarios

32:53 The Importance of Visualization

35:02 Using the Decoding Grid to Assess Relationships

37:23 Case Study: Assessing a Troubled Marriage

45:57 Understanding and Accepting Emotions

50:54 Making Decisions with Clarity and Certainty

Connect with Mike Fink

Website: https://www.getabsoluteclarity.com/

Book: https://www.getabsoluteclarity.com/ddd-book

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Keywords

divorce, decision-making, clarity, relationships, emotional intelligence, personal development, women's empowerment, indecision, mental health, coaching

In this transformative episode of A Life Worth Being, host Sue Willoughby welcomes Amilynne, a spiritual and trauma coach, TEDx speaker, and author. Together, they dive deep into the nature of personal transformation, discussing the power of breaking free from societal expectations, overcoming fear, and stepping into your true self. Amilynne shares her journey of embracing change and how she views transformation not as becoming something different, but as rediscovering who you’ve always been. They explore the comfort zones that hold us back, the importance of beliefs, and how fear is often just our imagination on overdrive. Amilynne's inspiring personal story, including her resilience following a stroke, is a testament to the beauty of surrendering to life’s challenges and finding grace in every moment. Tune in for a powerful conversation about embracing growth, even when it’s uncomfortable, and learning to show up fully for yourself.

Takeaways

Embracing darkness can lead to personal growth.

Transitions can be beautiful, not just easy.

Showing up for ourselves is crucial during changes.

Life's challenges push us out of our comfort zones.

Self-discovery often comes from questioning our experiences.

Personal choices can lead to significant life transitions.

The process of change requires self-awareness.

It's important to not fear the questions that arise.

Recognizing the beauty in struggle can transform our perspective.

Both imposed and chosen transitions require us to engage with ourselves.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Embracing Personal Transformation

04:38 Stepping Out of Our Comfort Zones

07:31 Examining Beliefs

10:18 Fear and Graceful Transitions

13:51 The Continuous Journey of Personal Transformation

24:17 Embracing Challenges for Personal Growth

28:05 The Beauty of Transformation

33:04 Self-Awareness and Embracing Emotions

36:39 Showing Up and Giving Grace

Connect with Amilynne Carroll:

Website: www.amilynnecarroll.com

InstaGram: https://www.instagram.com/amilynnecarroll/

FaceBook: https://www.facebook.com/SKCaterpillarChronicles/

Book: Conversations of Consequence: Lessons from the Still-Small Voice

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In this episode of A Life Worth Being, host Sue Willoughby sits down with David Buck, a seasoned business development expert with over 35 years of experience. David, the founder of Kairos Management Solutions and author of The Time Optimized Life, shares powerful insights into the difference between time management and time optimization. Together, they dive into practical strategies like time blocking, minimizing distractions (hello, smartphone!), and how to transform busywork into meaningful productivity. David’s wisdom on balancing Kronos (measured time) with Kairos (quality time) offers a fresh perspective on creating more value in your daily life. Tune in to learn how you can gain control over your schedule, prioritize what matters, and ultimately lead a richer, more efficient life.

Takeaways

• Being busy doesn't equate to being productive.
• Time optimization focuses on value rather than just managing time.
• Time blocking is a powerful tool for enhancing focus.
• Minimizing distractions is crucial for maintaining productivity.
• Work sprints can help maintain energy and focus.
• It's important to create specific time blocks for tasks.
• Understanding Kronos and Kairos time can shift your perspective on productivity.
• Corporate environments may struggle more with time optimization than entrepreneurial settings.
• Shifting from a Kronos mindset to a Kairos mindset can enhance productivity.
• Focusing on high-value tasks can lead to greater efficiency.

Sound Bites

"We are constantly complaining that we don't have enough time."

"What is the difference between time management and time optimization?"

"Time blocking can help you focus better."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Time Optimization

05:39 Implementing Time Blocking

08:53 Starting Small and Adapting

10:40 Minimizing Distractions and Focusing on Priorities

12:40 Strategies for Managing Distractions

15:57 Work Sprints and Taking Breaks

19:38 Marrying Your Calendar and Tasks

21:59 Identifying Triggers and Avoiding Distractions

24:41 Understanding Your Optimal Productivity Zone

29:48 The Power of Kairos Time

37:30 Managing Distractions and Planning Time

41:40 The Importance of Patience in Time Optimization

Connect with David Buck

Website: https://infinitylifestyledesign.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/davetimebuck

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/infinitylifestyledave/

Book: https://infinitylifestyledesign.com/the-time-optimized-life-book/

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Keywords

time management, time optimization, productivity, time blocking, distractions, work sprints, Kronos, Kairos, efficiency, entrepreneurial mindset

In this enlightening episode of A Life Worth Being, host Sue Willoughby welcomes mystic intuitive and clairvoyant healer Audrye Arbe. Broadcasting from her serene home in Costa Rica, Audrye shares her incredible journey of embracing her natural gifts from a young age, including her empathic abilities and metaphysical insights. Together, they dive deep into Audrye’s work as a clairvoyant, her experiences with intuitive healing, and her fascinating practice of painting frequency stones to elevate energy and promote well-being. Audrye also explores topics like genetic karmic patterning, raising personal vibration, and the power of heart-brain coherence in fostering peace and prosperity. Prepare for a heartfelt, soul-stirring conversation that inspires you to tune into your own intuition and uplift your frequency.

Takeaways

• Audrey was born a mystic intuitive and embraced her gifts.
• Intuition is a natural ability that everyone possesses.
• Not everyone is open to growth and development.
• Emotional sensitivity can be both a gift and a challenge.
• Creating art can be a form of energy healing.
• Frequency stones are designed to uplift and bring peace.
• Genetic karmic patterning influences our beliefs and behaviors.
• Healing can be done remotely and effectively.
• Raising your vibration is essential for personal and collective wellness.
• Self-care practices are crucial for maintaining a balanced life.

Sound Bites

"I was born a mystic intuitive."

"I always wanted to know why this, why that."

"I learned not everybody wants to really grow."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Audrey Arby

07:27 Empathy and Sensing the World

10:16 Trusting Intuition and Sticking Up for Yourself

13:53 Painting Frequency Stones for Beauty and Positive Energy

15:47 Programming Crystals and Creating Frequency Stones

17:04 Living in Peace, Beauty, and Wellness

19:24 Adapting to a New Culture

21:46 The Importance of Healing Work

28:28 Guided Breathing Exercise to Raise Your Vibration

Connect with Audrye Arbe

Website Link: https://www.AudryeNow.com

Facebook Link: https://www.facebook.com/audrye

Instagram Link: https://instagram.com/AudryeNow

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In this special bonus episode of A Life Worth Being, host Sue Willoughby celebrates the fall equinox and her milestone 65th birthday with a heartfelt reflection on life, growth, and embracing the beauty of midlife. Sue shares her personal journey of self-discovery, transformation, and the joy of creating a life worth living. Tune in as she talks about the power of letting go, much like the vibrant autumn trees shedding their leaves, to make room for new beginnings. Whether you’re navigating your own midlife journey or just looking for a boost of inspiration, this episode offers wisdom, warmth, and an invitation to embrace where you are and where you’re headed next.

Get ready for some real talk, seasonal inspiration, and a special birthday celebration! Plus, Sue has an exciting free gift for listeners who join her email list.

Takeaways

• This is a milestone birthday for me, turning 65.
• I tend to celebrate milestone birthdays as achievements.
• Midlife doesn't have to be seen as downhill; it can be a time of growth.
• I feel like I still have a ton of things that I want to do.
• The fall equinox symbolizes change and new beginnings.
• I love the beauty of autumn and the changing colors.
• Letting go is essential for personal growth and renewal.
• I encourage listeners to reflect on their own life transformations.
• Engaging with my audience is important to me.
• Happy fall equinox and birthday week to me!

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Keywords: milestone birthday, fall equinox, personal growth, life transitions, midlife coaching, Libra season, self-reflection, embracing change, seasonal transitions, life achievements

In this special episode of A Life Worth Being, host Sue Willoughby sits down with Remy Drabkin, a trailblazing queer winemaker, co-founder of Wine Country Pride, and mayor of McMinnville, Oregon. Remy is not just breaking barriers in the wine industry; she’s reshaping her community and beyond with innovative sustainability practices, including the development of a carbon-sequestering concrete that could revolutionize climate impact. Remy shares her journey of founding Remy Wines, creating the world’s first Queer Wine Fest, and her relentless pursuit of positive change through thoughtful leadership. From tackling DEI (Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion) in a traditionally conservative industry to her mayoral ambitions to "recode" local governance for more inclusive outcomes, this conversation is a powerful reminder of what it means to lead with intention, resilience, and impact.

Tune in as I explore what drives Remy’s passion for community, sustainability, and justice, and learn how she balances an extraordinary life of public service and business leadership—all while staying true to her authentic self.

Takeaways

• Unexpected encounters can lead to meaningful connections.
• Locking away technology can cause anxiety for many.
• Behavior plays a crucial role in how we adapt to change.
• Disconnection from technology can be beneficial.
• Chance meetings can lead to new opportunities.
• The experience at the Ellen show was memorable and unique.
• Understanding the impact of technology on our lives is essential.
• Anxiety can stem from the inability to access our devices.
• The importance of being present in the moment.
• Meeting new people can change the course of our lives.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: Remy Drabkin's Journey

05:48 Starting Remy Wines and Maintaining a Small Winery

07:09 Incubating Nonprofits and High Impact Events

11:31 Innovating the Wine Industry: Queer Wine Fest and Carbon Sequestering Concrete

14:51 Creating Lasting Change and Fixing Government Systems

20:01 Changing Housing Code for Better Outcomes

29:06 Challenges Faced as a Woman, Gay, and Perceived Age

30:48 Queer Wine Fest: Creating a Home and Network

32:34 Challenges from Within the Queer Community

35:10 Promoting Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion in the Wine Industry

36:08 Remy Drabkin: A Leader in Urban Design and Government

44:14 Innovative Projects: Mixed-Use Redevelopment and Carbon Sequestering Concrete

Connect with Remy Drabkin

Website - https://www.remywines.com

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/remywines

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/remywines/

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Autumn Renewal Fall Retreat 2024

In this episode of A Life Worth Being, host Sue Willoughby welcomes the irrepressible Lynne Bowman, author of the Amazon bestseller "Brownies for Breakfast," a cookbook for diabetics and the people who love them. At 78, Lynne is living proof that age is just a number, brimming with wisdom, wit, and stories that span her incredible life—from creative director roles in Silicon Valley to collaborating with TV legend Deirdre Hall, and even moonlighting as a wedding planner.

Sue and Lynne dive into a vibrant discussion about living authentically, the importance of creating community around the kitchen table, and breaking free from societal expectations. They explore how Lynne's philosophy of "eating joyfully" can lead to a healthier, more fulfilling life and why simplicity in food and life is often the best path forward. Lynne also shares her thoughts on unconventional education, societal shifts among younger generations, and her unique approach to resilience.

From mushroom soup spiced with bourbon to the power of gathering in shared spaces, this conversation is a delightful mix of humor, heart, and life lessons. Whether you’re looking for inspiration to embrace your creativity, revamp your relationship with food, or just enjoy a good story, this episode is sure to nourish your soul.

Takeaways

• Genius soup is a versatile and flexible recipe that allows for creativity in adding ingredients.
• The soup is made with a base of celery, carrots, and onions, which provide a delicious flavor.
• Adding ingredients like spinach and arugula can enhance the taste and nutritional value of the soup.
• The conversation highlights the love for the flavor of celery.

Sound Bites

• "Another recipe in the book that people love and ask me about is called genius soup. Guess why?"
• "Well, probably, but because it's genius. It's genius."
• "Just you chop it all up, throw it in there, saute it."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

06:11 Nurturing Creativity and Finding Your Passion

16:22 The Changing Attitudes Towards Driving

20:01 The Joy of Cooking and the Power of Soup

25:17 Favorite Soup Recipes and Cooking Tips

30:32 Leaving a Positive Legacy and Making a Difference

32:25 Eating Well for Health and Well-being

41:34 Creating Physical Environments for Connection and Community

50:53 The Value of Small Homes and Trailer Parks in Fostering Community Connect with Lynne Bowman

Website ⁠http://lynnebowman.com⁠

Facebook ⁠https://facebook/lynneparmiterbowman⁠

Instagram ⁠http://instagram.com/lynneparmiterbowman

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Autumn Renewal Fall Retreat 2024 - ⁠https://www.willoughbycoaching.com/events/p/autumn-renewal-transform-empower-and-embrace-your-freedom

In this transformative episode, Sue Willoughby sits down with Brendalyn Carpenter Player, a retired Army civilian public affairs director and founder of Brendalyn Player Communications, to uncover the hidden strengths of introversion. Brendalyn, an unapologetic introvert and cerebral palsy warrior, shares her powerful journey from hiding in the shadows to embracing her quiet power. She reveals how her late discovery of her introvert superpower allowed her to thrive in high-visibility roles and transform her approach to leadership and self-acceptance. Dive into this heartfelt conversation as Brendalyn discusses the importance of self-awareness, self-acceptance, and how to harness introversion as a unique strength rather than a weakness. With practical strategies, inspirational insights, and a call to action, this episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to honor their quiet nature and step confidently into their authentic self. Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere in between, Brendalyn’s story will challenge you to rethink your own inner narrative and embrace the power that lies within.

Takeaways

• Some people develop coping mechanisms to hide their insecurities and not draw attention to themselves physically.
• There can be various reasons why someone may feel like they don't speak well or don't want to be present or seen.
• Wearing a mask can make people feel like they need to perform in a lesser manner than what they actually have to offer.
• It's important to create a safe and supportive environment where people feel comfortable being themselves and expressing their true potential.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Organic Conversation

04:23 Understanding and Embracing Introversion

06:22 Discovering Introvert Strengths

10:07 Challenges Faced by Introverts in Professional Environments

15:40 Creating Inclusive Environments for Introverts

20:22 Empowering Introverts through Self-Acceptance

25:50 Embracing Your Unique Qualities as an Introvert

31:14 Navigating Social Environments with Confidence

37:21 The Value of Introverts in Leadership

40:13 Recognizing and Supporting Introverted Individuals in Organizations

42:12 Harnessing Your Quiet Power for Extraordinary Impact

Connect with Brendalyn!

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticintrovertspace/

Website: https://unapologeticintrovertspace.com/

Take the Introvert Quiz - Text INTROVERT to 931-202-9777

Watch for Brendalyn's New Book: "The Unapologetic Introvert: It's time to unlock your quiet power and thrive"

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In this captivating episode of A Life Worth Being, Sue Willoughby sits down with Frida Karsberg, a dynamic Equus coach, Reiki master, and former Swedish TV producer who now calls Los Angeles home. Frida shares her incredible journey from Stockholm to the sprawling city of LA, revealing the challenges she faced along the way, from adapting to a new culture to discovering her true calling in the world of equine-assisted coaching and healing. Together, Sue and Frida dive deep into the transformative power of intuition, the healing energy of Reiki, and the wisdom of horses, offering listeners a unique blend of practical insights and spiritual inspiration. Whether you're curious about Equus coaching or seeking ways to connect more deeply with your intuition, this episode is packed with wisdom, laughter, and the kind of honest conversation that makes you feel like you're chatting with old friends. Don't miss it!

Join Our Autumn Renewal Retreat! Takeaways:

• Coaching horses can be a powerful tool for personal growth and self-reflection.
• The horse's refusal to cooperate served as a wake-up call for Sue to work on herself.
• Self-awareness is crucial for personal and professional development.
• Challenging experiences can lead to valuable insights and growth.
• Sue's story highlights the transformative power of self-reflection.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

03:01 Frida's Journey from Sweden to Los Angeles

07:58 The Power of Equus Coaching

15:45 Reiki: A Natural Flow of Energy

24:59 Trusting Your Intuition

29:46 Autumn Renewal Retreat

Keywords: coaching, horses, self-reflection, personal growth, self-awareness, professional development Connect With Frida karsberg

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fridakarsbergcoach/

Website: https://www.fridakarsberg.com/

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